So What Do I Actually Do as a Parentification Wellness Coach?
As a parentification wellness coach, I support people who were forced to grow up too fast and help them begin the slow, intentional process of coming back to themselves. If you were the one who held things together in your family—the emotional rock, the fixer, the one everyone depended on—then you already know this isn’t just about your childhood. That pressure doesn’t disappear just because you got older. It shows up in how you care for others, how you struggle to care for yourself, and how you move through your relationships, work, and even your own body.
In our coaching work, I help you explore the patterns you picked up in order to survive. These might include people-pleasing, perfectionism, guilt around rest, or the need to always be productive in order to feel worthy. Together, we take a closer look at these habits and create space for something new. You learn to stop overfunctioning and start reconnecting to who you really are, outside of being needed all the time. Because doing everything for everyone is not your personality. It’s a survival response. And it’s one you don’t have to carry alone anymore.
This kind of coaching work isn’t surface-level. It’s not about achieving more or becoming a “better” version of yourself. It’s about helping you remember the version of you who isn’t always managing, fixing, or protecting. The version of you that was buried underneath all the caretaking. Sometimes that means learning how to rest without spiraling. Sometimes it means grieving the childhood you didn’t get. Sometimes it means getting honest about how hard it is to let go of control when control kept you safe.
This isn’t therapy, but it is healing. Within the scope of wellness coaching, we focus on tools, structure, and reflection that help you feel safer in your body and clearer about your needs. We explore simple, body-based regulation practices like grounding, breathwork, or movement to help you manage stress. We look at where your time and energy are going, and start building boundaries that support your well-being instead of draining it. We talk about your identity, because it’s hard to build a life that feels good when you don’t know who you are outside of being useful.
You were never meant to carry the emotional weight of your entire family. But you did. And now you deserve support as you begin putting some of that weight down.
This work is not a quick fix. There’s no morning routine or time-blocking strategy that can erase years of emotional labor and hypervigilance. What we’re doing together is slower. It’s gentler. And it’s sacred. My role is to walk beside you and help you stay grounded while you reconnect with parts of yourself that never had space to exist.
So What’s the Goal of All This?
The goal is not to turn you into a highly efficient adult who juggles everything without flinching. You’ve already been that. You’ve already handled things, shown up, and survived. You’ve kept the ship afloat when no one else could. The goal now is something different.
The goal is to help you unlearn the survival patterns that are no longer serving you. It’s to create a life that feels more like yours and less like one built entirely around other people’s needs. It’s to help you feel safer in your own body, so you’re not always on edge, always anticipating, always ready to manage something. It’s to help you reconnect with your own wants, needs, and values—the things that make you feel alive, not just responsible.
We do that by slowing down and listening to your body’s cues. We start building routines that support your energy, not drain it. We get honest about what roles you’ve taken on out of obligation, and whether those roles are still serving you. We look at how you relate to others, and whether those relationships feel mutual or one-sided. We explore how you can show up for yourself with the same care you’ve always shown others.
More than anything, the goal is to help you live from a place of choice, not fear or guilt. You get to make decisions based on what feels right for you—not what keeps the peace, not what makes others more comfortable, and not what you were conditioned to believe is expected of you.
This process is not linear. Some days you’ll feel grounded. Other days you might feel like you’re slipping back into old roles. That’s okay. It’s all part of the process. What matters is that you’re no longer doing it alone.
You deserve a life where rest is allowed. You deserve relationships that don’t depend on your overgiving. You deserve to feel whole, not just useful.
So, If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but still feel hollow or exhausted, if you’ve wondered who you’d be without constantly playing the caretaker, or if you’ve dreamed of a life that feels like your own, this work is for you. You don’t have to earn peace or prove your worth—you’ve already done enough. Now, you get to just be.
